Regardless of family type, whether large, small, divorced or blended, adoptive or otherwise, successful marriages and families don’t just happen. The fundamentals of success must be learned through many trials and errors. The suggestion that the foundations of successful marriages and families are biological connections demeans the true purpose of families and diminishes the value of the bonds of love, commitment, trust and loyalty that are needed to keep families stable and healthy.
The ability to work on mutual and important goals as a family, in addition to time and support of one another, is required to achieve a successful marriage. You usually get out what you put into it and if one of your goals is to have a successful marriage it will take a lot of hard work. Focusing on those things that are present in a marriage instead of getting hung up on the one or two items missing is key if you want a successful marriage.
Though there is no magic formula for achieving a successful marriage and family life, selflessness, love, and service are a few key principles that, when applied, can have remarkable transformational qualities on our families. In his book, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Families, Stephen Covey suggests that we have to first be true to ourselves and know what things are important to us. Covey encourages his readers to make a family mission statement and create the opportunity for a highly effective family life.
Successful families work together as a team and family strength is like physical strength; the more you work on it, the better you feel. Active listening is vital to hearing and being heard in the family unit, and is essential to effective family communication. One of the most important requirements in successful marriages is good communication.
Successful marriages need a steady dose of kind acts and thoughts, and achieving a marriage that benefits both sides is easier said than done. Simply by giving your marriage a bit of attention you can immediately improve the interactions between you and your spouse. Laughter in a marriage is strongly recommend because studies show that couples who laugh together on a daily basis have less stress, better sex, and a stronger connection.
Success in a marriage is not a matter of chance but a matter of understanding what privileges and individual responsibilities are as a husband or wife. As a root cause for many problems, gender differences can be a major stumbling block in achieving a successful marriage. Marriage success depends on the sharing and division of responsibility in the family.
Principles of faith, forgiveness, respect, love, compassion, work and wholesome recreational activities are key to maintaining a successful marriage and family. Offering revealing anecdotes about ordinary people, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Families is an invaluable guidebook. The importance of keeping promises, how and why to have family meetings, and how to balance individual and family needs are all addressed in the guidebook.
Effective families and successful marriages are all about deciding what is important and what is wanted in life. It requires a high degree of motivation and the desire to make a marriage successful by expending personal time and effort. A successful marriage can be the relationship you always dreamed of by making the necessary changes.