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Your self-esteem and your self-confidence are the barometer of your self-image. The problem is that most often those two parameters are not really originated in ’self’, as they were to begin with, but are determined by factors outside of you, like other people’s opinions. In the following article we will look at ways to regain that control and rebuild your confidence and esteem in yourself.

Understanding both concepts

As I have mentioned in previous articles around this topic, self-esteem is your belief in your own worth as a being and self-confidence is your belief about your abilities to do things. Over the years of our lives we have these two concepts confused and fused with each other and many of us have come to believe that we are only as good and worthy as what we have achieved. We start to measure our worth as a being on our successes or failures and, on top of things, have them measured by outside standards and other people’s opinion.

Tip #1: Reclaiming yourself

The first step in improving both self-esteem and confidence is to own it as yours. At first this might just be a thought but in the following tips you will get more clarity on how that translates into everyday life. The truth of the matter is that they are yours, your beliefs and no one else’s!

Tip #2: Stop assuming and caring about what other people think

If you care more about what other people think about you then you still need to apply tip #1. What other people think or feel is their business, not yours. They have the right to think whatever they want and so do you! Stop wasting time worrying about their thoughts and start to bring yours on track.

Tip #3: Give yourself a round of applause

Remember how good it feels if someone gives you compliment about you as a person (being - esteem) or about what you have done (doing - confidence)? It is time to do that for yourself. Focus on your achievements and not on your failures. Celebrate your successes.

Tip #4: Reward yourself

In the same way you don’t have to wait around for someone else to reward you or give you a pat on the back. Start treating yourself as the most important person in your life, because, believe me, you are! Treat yourself to a massage or an ice cream, sometimes because you’ve done something outstanding and something just because you are you and it’s time to celebrate you!

Tip #5: Acknowledge - accept - let go

Life is about meeting your challenges, whether that is in the perception of other people or meeting your own beliefs of inadequacy. Where ever you are in your process, start by acknowledging and accepting how things are and to let them go. Forgive people and grow your own inner freedom, freedom from beliefs of others and your own beliefs that no longer serve you.

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Nathalie Himmelrich is the founder of ‘Reach for the Sky Therapy’ on Sydney’s Northern Beaches and specialises in ‘relationship related issues’. She is working with individuals and couples using techniques ranging from Counselling, Neuro Linguistic Programming to Journey Therapy. She supports clients in their personal growth in a supportive and professional environment.

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